( Austrian medical doctor, and psychotherapist ) 7 February 1870 - 28 May 1937
It is very obvious that we are not influenced by “facts” but by our interpretation of the facts.
You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else.
We learn in friendship to look with the eyes of another person, to listen with her ears, and to feel with her heart.
What person, confined in a small room with nothing but a tea-cosy, will not eventually put the tea-cosy on their head?
The goal of the human soul is conquest, perfection, security, superiority.
We cannot say that if a child is badly nourished he will become a criminal. We must see what conclusion the child has drawn.
There is no such thing as talent. There is pressure.
The style of life is a unity because it has grown out of the difficulties of early life and out of the striving for a goal.
We must never neglect the patient’s own use of his symptoms.
Tears and complaints – the means which I have called water power – can be an extremely useful weapon for disturbing cooperation and reducing other to a condition of slavery.
We must interpret a bad temper as a sign of inferiority.
War is not the continuation of politics with different means, it is the greatest mass- crime perpetrated on the community of man.
The test of one’s behavior pattern is their relationship to society, relationship to work, and relationship to sex.
What is courage? Courage is the willingness to risk failure…There is only one danger I find in life, and that, indeed, is a real one. You may take too many precautions.
The only normal people are the ones you don’t know very well.
To see with the eyes of another, to hear with the ears of another, to feel with the heart of another. For the time being, this seems to me an admissible definition of what we call social feeling.
There is a courage of happiness as well as a courage of sorrow.
To injure another person through atonement is one of the most subtle devices of the neurotic, as when, for example, he indulges in self-accusations.
Time is a great teacher, but unfortunately, it kills all its pupils. Hector Berlioz, It is easier to fight for one’s principles than to live up to them.
War is organized murder and torture against our brothers.
Violence as a way of gaining power… is being camouflaged under the guise of tradition, national honor, and national security.
Play is a child’s work and this is not a trivial pursuit.
The mathematical life of a mathematician is short. Work rarely improves after the age of twenty-five or thirty. If little has been accomplished by then, little will ever be accomplished.
Nobody adopts antisocial behavior unless they fear that they will fail if they remain on the social side of life.
To all those who walk the path of human cooperation war must appear loathsome and inhuman.
The educator must believe in the potential power of his pupil, and he must employ all his art in seeking to bring his pupil to experience this power.
The chief danger in life is that you may take too many precautions.
It is easy to believe that life is long and one’s gifts are vast — easy at the beginning, that is. But the limits of life grow more evident; it becomes clear that great work can be done rarely, if at all.
The truth is often a terrible weapon of aggression. It is possible to lie, and even to murder, with the truth.
The greater the feeling of inferiority that has been experienced, the more powerful is the urge to conquest and the more violent the emotional agitation.
My psychology belongs to everyone.
The science of the mind can only have for its proper goal the understanding of human nature by every human being, and through its use, brings peace to every human soul.
Our modern states are preparing for war without even knowing the future enemy.
No experience is a cause of success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences, so-called trauma – but we make out of them just what suits our purposes.
Mathematics is pure language – the language of science. It is unique among languages in its ability to provide precise expression for every thought or concept that can be formulated in its terms.
Overcoming difficulties leads to courage, self-respect, and knowing yourself.
Every therapeutic cure, and still more, any awkward attempt to show the patient the truth, tears him from the cradle of his freedom from responsibility and must therefore reckon with the most vehement resistance.
Life is just the same as learning to swim. Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live!
There is only one reason for an individual to side-step to the useless side: the fear of a defeat on the useful side.
In the investigation of a neurotic style of life, we must always suspect an opponent, and note who suffers most because of the patient’s condition. Usually this is a member of the family.
More important than innate disposition, objective experience, and environment is the subjective evaluation of these. Furthermore, this evaluation stands in a certain, often strange, relation to reality.
It is one of the most effective attitudes of the neurotic to measure thumbs down, so to speak, a real person by an ideal, since in doing so he can depreciate him as much as he wishes.
Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.
Man knows much more than he understands.
It is the patriotic duty of every man to lie for his country.
Men of genius are admired, men of wealth are envied, men of power are feared; but only men of character are trusted.
It is well known that those who do not trust themselves never trust others.
The only worthwhile achievements of man are those which are socially useful.
If you wish to educate a child who has gone wrong, then you must, above all, keep your attention fixed on the intersection of two charmed circles.
In this case, the neurotic resembles a human being who looks up to God, commends himself to His ways, and then religiously awaits how the Lord will guide him; he is nailed to the cross of his fiction.